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Taming the Tongue

When words are many, sin is not absent,
but he who holds his tongue is wise.  
Proverbs 10:19  


A fool shows his annoyance at once,
but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
 Proverbs 12:16  


A man of knowledge uses words with restraint,
and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent,
and discerning if he holds his tongue. 
Proverbs 17:27-28  


I am convicted by these words today.  God has been dealing with me for the last several weeks about my mouth.  I boast too much.  I gripe too much.  I gossip too much.  I just flat out talk too much.  I have a hard time controlling my tongue and I want to change that starting today. 


I want to be a godly man, husband and leader in my community and church.  I have to start with the small things.  I must love God and my wife.  I have to be faithful with my prayer.  I have to read my bible.  I have to go to church and I have to tithe.  But that isn’t enough.  If I do all these things yet cannot control my tongue then I am not godly at all.  James asks us in James 3:12, “can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs?”  Certainly not.  Neither can a man leave his tongue unbridled and expect to have influence. 


I know I can’t do it on my own; I’ve tried.  I am glad I don’t have to. 


      But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you,

      for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 

                       2 Corinthians 12:9


Thank God for grace.


Someone Get Don King on the Phone!

I learned a valuable lesson yesterday, which is to say I screwed up.  We had our monthly Wednesday night meeting with the youth that we affectionately refer to as Youth on the Loose.  Seven kids showed up.  Seven.  I am not complaining too much as we only had five last month.  As a matter of fact, mathematically we had a 40% increase from last month.  That looks fantastic mathematically.


It’s not the kids fault really.  It’s my fault.  I need a promotions director but since we are in no place to hire one I am stuck with, well, me.  I need to get the kids pumped up and excited about coming to our monthly meetings.  We actually have fun.  I even think the kids have fun.


So, why aren’t they inviting kids?  Is it the building?  Is it the games?  Is it the food?  No.  It’s all me.  I am the reason they haven’t invited kids.  I haven’t promoted enough.  I need to talk to them individually, en masse, via email, via myspace (I hate myspace…but I have two, mine and the youth one), via postcards, text-messages (they love that junk), phone calls and I need to give them cool invitations to give to their friends. 


Am I missing anything?  Help me out people.


We had our monthly staff meeting last night and it was pretty good.  I normally hate meetings and tend to drift off after a while (kind of like our leader…cough).  However, last night was a little different.  Tony talked about what we can look forward to in the coming months at Legacy, and it is pretty exciting and scary all at the same time.


The upcoming series is going to be about commitment; our commitment to the church, the churches commitment to the community, Tony’s commitment to us, etc.  He is fully committed to God’s purpose and his people and he is going to encourage us to be committed as well.  It is going to get really warm and uncomfortable in that building for some.  I love it.


Anne wrote earlier this week about church the church and the difference between making people feel welcome and making them feel comfortable.  We want to love people and we want them to know it.  Love isn’t always comfortable.  Jesus certainly didn’t always tell people what they wanted to hear but what they needed to hear.  That is our responsibility as well. 


Our pastors (and the rest of the body of Christ for that matter) can’t be afraid to call people to commit, even if it scares off a few people in the process.

Prayer Request
March 25, 2008, 9:41 am
Filed under: church, Ministry, Prayer | Tags:

My wife pointed something out to me this morning and I want to share it with you all in an effort to nip it in the butt.  She exclaimed that a lot of people in our church are getting sick a lot, especially the staff.  I have had a handful of health issues but lately I have been pretty good.  Of course, I haven’t gone to the doctor either.  Anyway, our children’s pastor’s wife is sick again and their kids were sick not too long ago.  Our worship pastor and his wife get sick more often than they should.  I think the only people immune are my wife, Tony and his wife.   

Please pray for us.  I don’t think we are falling apart at the seams or anything but it is little annoyances like these that can really cause stress on a person and in turn a team.  Thanks for your prayers.

Crazy Weekend

So, this weekend was kind of nuts.  Saturday was busier than the average week in the Fuller household.  We worked outside building raised flowerbeds for Cheri’s landscaping project.  I opened my big pie hole a couple of weeks ago and said it would be nice to build them out of the same brick our house is made of.  As cheap as I am I have to do it myself.  I am a moron sometimes.  Oh well, I watched an episode of Rock Solid on DIY so I should be good to go, right? 

I also bought a 1985 Chevy Silverado short wheelbase.  I am totally geeked.  Some people salivate over video games and Steve Jobs.  I become a big rubbery one when it comes to cars, trucks and motorcycles. 

Later that day we got to pick up our dog, Grissom, from doggy boot camp.  He has been gone for one month.  It has been refreshing not having to worry about him and just go and blow however we choose but our house just seems different without him.  At least for me it does. 

To end the day, our neighbors had a block party in our cul-de-sac.  It was partially for the kids (Easter egg hunt and a movie projected on the side of a house) and partially for the adults (lots of ribs and some folks partaking of adult beverages).  We had a pretty good time until one of the neighbors had a bit too much to drink.  Nothing crazy happened but people just get dumb when they are drunk.  I don’t miss those days at all. 

So, yesterday was Easter, or as some in the business call it, Superbowl Sunday.  We set and attendance record at Legacy.  There were 1/3 more people there than have ever been for one service.  Church isn’t a numbers game…but it is, you know?  It started off stressful and tense for some of us but we prayed trough it and God showed up.  I knew He would.  That’s how He rolls.   

I spent the rest of the day trying to relax.  I am worn out.  I need another weekend for my weekend. 

Why go to church
March 5, 2008, 9:21 am
Filed under: church, Faith, God, Jesus, Ministry, Relationships, Religion, worship

I had a conversation with someone at work the other day about church.  Since I am part of a church staff I don’t really know what it is like to have the option of not going to church.  However, I felt compelled even before I was staff and have attended service regularly for the last four or five years.  As much as I need to go to church for my own sake God is also my Lord and He deserves to be worshipped.  I love worshipping with my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.  I don’t always want to go.  I don’t always want to worship but I do and I know God loves it. 

Anyway, my coworker mentioned that he didn’t regularly attend service but he would watch Joel Osteen on Sunday morning and he would pray.  I guess that’s good, right?  He stated that he didn’t go all the time because “he didn’t need it” every Sunday.  He chooses to go when he feels like he needs to be recharged or, as I like to put it, “get some Jesus”. 

We all need to be recharged.  I am not saying it is wrong to go because you need to be recharged but I don’t think that should be the only reason.  I posed the question, “What happens when you miss one Sunday and someone there needs you?”  His response was, “I don’t believe God would forsake someone else because I didn’t go to church one day.” 

That got me thinking about a lot of things, especially the lordship of God and Christ.  He is our lord first and then our savior, no?  Our Lord has dominion over all and it is His prerogative to do as He pleases.  Not only that, but because He is our Lord and Savior, He should be praised.  It is the one gift we can give Him that He can’t give Himself.  (Psalm 29:2, Ps. 95:1-2, Ps. 111:1)   

I thought about a fire.  If you remove a burning coal from a fire it will still burn.  It will burn until the elements surrounding it overwhelm it and finally extinguish it.  The assembly keeps us on fire for God.  The assembly can help keep the world from extinguishing the fire in our hearts.  (Hebrews 10:25) 

Finally, I believe unequivocally that He uses us to do His will.  He is the vine and we are the branches.  We are the part of the vine that produces fruit and that reaches outward.  I believe we act as the hands and feet of Christ.  He works through us.  It is our job, dare I say responsibility to love one another.  Therefore, I believe it is not an option for me to go to church.  Someone is there waiting for me.  (John 15:5-8)


For a related article see what Anne wrote about going to church.

Today at men’s prayer
February 29, 2008, 9:01 am
Filed under: church, Faith, Leadership, Legacy Fellowship, men's prayer, Ministry, Religion

Normally, during men’s prayer on Friday morning, I spend most of my time praying for the church body of Legacy Fellowship.  That is not to say I don’t pray for other things than that, of course I do, but my focus is usually on the 60-70 members that come through our doors every Sunday and Wednesday. 

Today was different.  After I spent a few minutes getting myself right before God, I spent the rest of the time praying for the staff of Legacy.  I really felt like that is where the prayers were needed today.

I like to think that we have it all down.  We are exactly where we need to be with God and in our ministry.  I couldn’t be more wrong.  We need prayer as much as the next person.  I forget that sometimes because we are staff.  I forget that because we are SUPPOSED to have it all wired.  We don’t; especially me.

I am going to make a point of praying for my fellow staff members more.  I am going to spend some serious time in prayer for them and the rest of the church.  Heck, I am just going to spend some serious time in prayer.