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Taming the Tongue

When words are many, sin is not absent,
but he who holds his tongue is wise.  
Proverbs 10:19  


A fool shows his annoyance at once,
but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
 Proverbs 12:16  


A man of knowledge uses words with restraint,
and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent,
and discerning if he holds his tongue. 
Proverbs 17:27-28  


I am convicted by these words today.  God has been dealing with me for the last several weeks about my mouth.  I boast too much.  I gripe too much.  I gossip too much.  I just flat out talk too much.  I have a hard time controlling my tongue and I want to change that starting today. 


I want to be a godly man, husband and leader in my community and church.  I have to start with the small things.  I must love God and my wife.  I have to be faithful with my prayer.  I have to read my bible.  I have to go to church and I have to tithe.  But that isn’t enough.  If I do all these things yet cannot control my tongue then I am not godly at all.  James asks us in James 3:12, “can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs?”  Certainly not.  Neither can a man leave his tongue unbridled and expect to have influence. 


I know I can’t do it on my own; I’ve tried.  I am glad I don’t have to. 


      But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you,

      for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 

                       2 Corinthians 12:9


Thank God for grace.


Prayer Request
September 3, 2008, 8:29 pm
Filed under: Faith, Prayer, Religion | Tags: ,

I once read that bitterness/resentment/holding a grudge is like drinking a spoonful of arsenic everyday and expecting someone else to die.  It is horrible and it can rot you from the inside out if you don’t nip it in the bud. 


Well, I need to nip my bitterness in the bud.  I rarely petition for prayer but I really need it right now.  So I ask you all to please remember me in prayer and I thank you in advance.

New Opportunity
August 20, 2008, 11:29 am
Filed under: Ministry, Prayer, Relationships, Religion

It is official; I am no longer the Youth Pastor of Legacy Fellowship.  Well, it’s not official until the first of the month, I guess.  I am finishing up the month as the Youth Pastor and then Tony, the Lead Pastor at Legacy is going to take it over until someone new is appointed.  Tony is a long-time youth guy and I know he will do a lot better than I ever did at the position.


So, how did I come to this?  Was I fired?  Did I quit?  Well, God did it.  My wife and I have been feeling for a long time that we were just not in the right position.  It was a grind for us to do anything associated with ministry because we were trudging in a ministry that was no longer our calling.  I believe we were called to the ministry and we were supposed to serve in that capacity for a season.  The season is now coming to an end.  Tony knew it too.


It came up in conversation when Cheri and I were having dinner over at Tony and Kandy’s.  We were just talking and as the layers were pealed back (like an onion, we have many) I decided I would come forth and be completely honest.  I told him I didn’t feel like we were supposed to be doing youth ministry anymore.  I also explained that I was certain I knew where we should be serving but that the position wasn’t really a high priority at this time. 


After we all talked and gave feedback it was decided that we would move into a new position.  Apparently, Tony didn’t share the same opinion about it not being a high priority and new Cheri and I are the Connections Pastors at Legacy.


What is a Connections Pastor, you ask?  We are going to be in charge of the Usher Team, the Reception Team (we will have one soon or this may fall under Hospitality), Living Rooms (Legacy’s small groups), Men’s Ministry, Prayer Ministry and Legacy Athletics (yeah, that’s coming after I heal up a bit).  Cheri and I will share in responsibilities of Living Rooms, Reception and Athletics.  I will head the Men’s Ministry and Usher Team and Cheri will head the Prayer Ministry.  I can’t wait to see how it all works out and I can’t wait to see who God brings along to fill the many spots we will have on these ministry teams. 


I also can’t wait until God appoints the next Youth Pastor.  As excited as I am to be moving forward in my new area of ministry I can’t help but feel a bit down about leaving the youth.  We weren’t complete failures, I guess.  We just weren’t the right fit.  I am praying now for the next person to be the perfect fit for our church and for our youth.

I will not be disaffected
August 6, 2008, 7:37 am
Filed under: Daily Living, Faith, Jesus, Ministry, Prayer, Relationships, Religion

I have been thinking a lot about the disaffectedness of people these days.  It is really weighing on my heart this morning for some reason. 


I have talked with a lot of people who are content to go through this world and not touch anyone in it.  They say things like, “they can do whatever they want as long as it doesn’t affect me”, or “I can’t do anything about it so why should I care?”  I think attitudes like that are a major problem with the world today.  It seems there are so few people out there that care anything about anyone other than themselves.


It is my heart’s desire to help people.  I want to give my time and my resources to bless others so that they might bless someone else in return.  That, my friends, is the best way for people to see God in this world, through us.  I am not always perfect, in fact, I rarely am even very good when it comes to this.  However, I try to tell myself that my body and my money and my things are not my own, they are God’s.  If He wants me to share them with someone I will do my best to comply.  It’s when my best isn’t good enough that I have to pray that the Holy Spirit will work through me.  Otherwise, look out for a disaffected stare and a cold shoulder.


Thank God for His Holy Spirit.  Thank God for grace.

Prayer for my Buddy
May 13, 2008, 8:22 am
Filed under: Faith, God is good, health, Jesus, Prayer

Will you please pray for my friend?  His wife is having some serious heath issues (she was taken to the ER this morning) and we are agreeing in prayer that God will give the doctors wisdom to correctly diagnose the problem, He will give comfort to her and the family and above all that He will heal her condition.


Thanks for your prayers.

Broken Pots
May 13, 2008, 8:11 am
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I read recently about the sale of pottery in ancient times.  Apparently, some of the jicky pottery dealers would sell the broken stuff.  They would piece it together and seal it with wax then later paint the pottery so that the repaired cracks couldn’t be seen.  The pottery looked great but the problem with wax is that it has a tendency to melt.  So, what happened when folks set the pots at the end of their driveway and summer rolled around?  That’s right, the pots fell apart leaving a shattered mess for Dad to drive over in his brand new 732 AD Olds Wagon.  (For the few of you that may think I don’t realize that Oldsmobile wasn’t around in 732 AD, I do.  I think Studebaker was big back then though.)


Anyway, I was thinking about this a lot this morning on the way to work.  We are like jars of clay.  Most of us have been broken at one time or anther and possibly still are.  When we try to “fix” ourselves we are putting the pieces together with wax.  We paint over the damage so no one will know.  The problem is, just like the potteries sold in ancient times, when the heat gets turn up we have a tendency to fall apart again.


Jesus came to fix us (Mark 2:17).  He is the master potter and the only one that can fix us.  When we are going through hard times, when we, a friend or family member are sick, when all hope seems lost, Jesus can fix us.

Someone Get Don King on the Phone!

I learned a valuable lesson yesterday, which is to say I screwed up.  We had our monthly Wednesday night meeting with the youth that we affectionately refer to as Youth on the Loose.  Seven kids showed up.  Seven.  I am not complaining too much as we only had five last month.  As a matter of fact, mathematically we had a 40% increase from last month.  That looks fantastic mathematically.


It’s not the kids fault really.  It’s my fault.  I need a promotions director but since we are in no place to hire one I am stuck with, well, me.  I need to get the kids pumped up and excited about coming to our monthly meetings.  We actually have fun.  I even think the kids have fun.


So, why aren’t they inviting kids?  Is it the building?  Is it the games?  Is it the food?  No.  It’s all me.  I am the reason they haven’t invited kids.  I haven’t promoted enough.  I need to talk to them individually, en masse, via email, via myspace (I hate myspace…but I have two, mine and the youth one), via postcards, text-messages (they love that junk), phone calls and I need to give them cool invitations to give to their friends. 


Am I missing anything?  Help me out people.