Filter Through Life

Speaking of Yard Work
May 27, 2008, 9:34 am
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My mom came out to visit me and the wife over the weekend.  We had a really nice time.  I think I did more shopping Saturday, Sunday and Monday than I have in the last year.  We went to the nursery for plants, the outlet mall for clothes and Salado for antiques.  Everybody bought stuff but me.  I was really just along for the ride. 


It was really good to hang with my mom and wife.  They get along really well and that makes me very happy.  My dad had loads of yard work to get to so he stayed home.  I wish he could have come too. 


Speaking of yard work; my mom said something that really stuck with me.  She said she was really surprised and impressed by how nice our yard looks.  Cheri and I spend HOURS nearly every weekend working in the yard doing something new to make it look good.  My mom just couldn’t believe I would spend that much time doing that.


My mom also told me she couldn’t see me being married, owning paying for a home and having a dog.  Basically, she was surprised I had turned into a relatively grounded and responsible adult.  Not surprised like shocked, but surprised, you know what I mean?


I have to give the credit to God first and foremost.  He is the one that saved me from the apocalyptical direction I was heading.  I began listening to wisdom calling out to me, the simple.  That wisdom which God spoke to me through my parents and pastors. 

I’m glad I surprised my mom.


Proverbs 9:4-6, 10

“Let all who are simple come in here!”
       she says to those who lack judgment.

“Come, eat my food
       and drink the wine I have mixed.

Leave your simple ways and you will live;
       walk in the way of understanding.

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom,
       and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.


Shut My Mouth

I went to my friend’s house the other day only to find him working.  It was about eleven o’clock at night.  My friend is a bit of a workaholic to say the least.  I would recon that he stayed in his temple worshipping office working for another hour or so.  I even said as much but even less Jesus-like and a lot snider. 


I thought about this for a while and realized that I have a major character flaw here.  I prayed this morning for my friend and while I was praying I told God that I knew for certain that I was jacked up too and I hope some jacked up person out there was praying for me too. 


As I prayed and prayed I resolved to stop being such a jerk.  People think sarcasm is funny; the people using it.  The people at the butt of sarcastic jokes don’t think they are that funny.  I’m relatively vertically challenged and have been the butt of several jokes about it.  For years I hated the jokes but learned to not care grew thick skin. 


I am supposed to be a Godly man.  I don’t want people to learn to put up their guard when they see me coming.  I want them to know that I am not going to bring up their character flaws and/or sin and throw it in their faces.  I want them to know that I will certainly pray for their problems.  I want them to know that I don’t consider myself any better than them. 


How on earth am I going to do this?

Hard Workin’ Woman
April 18, 2008, 2:01 pm
Filed under: Daily Living, Marriage, Relationships

Last night Cheri came home and said, “Guess what?” 


My response to this is the same every time, “You got a raise!” 


She usually replies with a resounding, “No, I rented Ella Enchanted (or The Princess Diaries…something like that.)”


Last night was different.  I was finally right.  She has been working at her new job for about two months and already got a raise.  They really seem to like her at her job and I am so thankful for that.  I am proud of my chick.


Good job, Honey.

Our 3rd Anniversary
April 16, 2008, 8:55 am
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Today is Cheri and my third anniversary.  It has been three great years with the best chick on the planet.  We go a great deal on a photographer who was a friend of my brother.  He gave us the discs with all the pictures on them so we could print what we wanted at our leisure.  We have never had any of them printed.  I don’t know why, we just haven’t.  So for a gift I decided to have a coffee table book of our wedding photos created by my good friend Chad.  It turned out really cool and she really liked it.  Thanks dude.


I am also having flowers delivered to her work and tonight I am taking her to Main Street Grill in Round Rock.  It is a five-star restaurant that was voted the as #1 most romantic restaurant in the Austin area last year.  Seriously, it’s in Round Rock.  I am excited.  I love food and I love making my wife smile.  I get the best of both worlds tonight.

Nine Words (or Phrases) Women Use
April 11, 2008, 7:12 am
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(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. “Five minutes” is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm.  This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with “nothing usually” end in “fine”.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!

(5) Loud *Sigh*: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing.   (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of “nothing”.)

(6) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. “That’s okay” means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say “you’re welcome”. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says “Thanks a lot”; this is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all.  DO NOT say “You’re welcome” … that will bring on a “whatever”).

(8) Whatever: a women’s way of saying “I hate YOU!”

(9) Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking “What’s wrong?” For the woman’s response refer to # 3.


We had our monthly staff meeting last night and it was pretty good.  I normally hate meetings and tend to drift off after a while (kind of like our leader…cough).  However, last night was a little different.  Tony talked about what we can look forward to in the coming months at Legacy, and it is pretty exciting and scary all at the same time.


The upcoming series is going to be about commitment; our commitment to the church, the churches commitment to the community, Tony’s commitment to us, etc.  He is fully committed to God’s purpose and his people and he is going to encourage us to be committed as well.  It is going to get really warm and uncomfortable in that building for some.  I love it.


Anne wrote earlier this week about church the church and the difference between making people feel welcome and making them feel comfortable.  We want to love people and we want them to know it.  Love isn’t always comfortable.  Jesus certainly didn’t always tell people what they wanted to hear but what they needed to hear.  That is our responsibility as well. 


Our pastors (and the rest of the body of Christ for that matter) can’t be afraid to call people to commit, even if it scares off a few people in the process.

Dynamic Youth Ministry
April 8, 2008, 8:43 am
Filed under: God, Jesus, Leadership, Ministry, Prayer, Relationships, Youth Ministry

My wife and I are having a meeting tonight to discuss the state of the youth ministry we run.  We have a lot of things to talk about and probably even more to change.  I have said it before that the ministry has been just so-so from the beginning.  It all starts with me and I take complete responsibility for it. 



Over the last couple of months God has really been dealing with me about this and I think I know what we have to do, almost.  I don’t know exactly what the change looks like but I have been praying and praying about this and just last week I felt like God kicked me in the pants and said to get busy.  I have been doing research and praying and praying and researching. 



I have never wanted an “events/activities-based” ministry; rather I prefer a “relationship-based” ministry.  The way I see it, if kids are coming for the sole purpose of having fun or just to do something then they will stop once something more fun starts happening on Wednesday night or Sunday.  If kids are coming because there are people there that want to see them, people that love them and show genuine concern for them, people that pray for and with them, they have more of a reason to show up. 



Building relationships is difficult, especially with teenagers.  Almost all of them have an outer shell that protects them.  Their guard is almost always up and it takes a long time to build trust with them.  I think we have come to that point.  We don’t have it completely wired but we can build relationships with teens.  I think they know we love them.  I think they know we pray for them and that we have their best interest at heart.



Now, for the sake of the ministry, it’s time for us to build a relationship between “relationship-based” and “events/activities-based” ministries.  I want this ministry to be great.  I want it to be dynamic.  I want teenagers to come and have fun.  I want them build a relationship with Christ.  I want teenagers to become a functional part of the church today.  I want this not for my own pride or ambition but because God wants it.  He is dynamic and He is fun.  He wants relationships with teenagers.  He is going to have to show me how to do this.